Joh 2:3 And when they ran out of wine, the mother of Jesus said to Him, "They have no wine."
4 Jesus said to her, "Woman, what does your concern have to do with Me? My hour has not yet come."
A lot of us moderns find it disrespectful. But in their time and culture, it was not an expression of disrespect. It was in fact an expression of respect and honor. The word "woman" carries the idea of "Lady" or "Madam." The expression: "... what does your concern have to do with Me? My hour has not yet come" was not uttered with a disrespectful and angry tone. It was said gently.
The Lord was indicating to her that at this point in time He was going by His Father's instructions and time table. He called her "Lady" or "Madam" as an indication to her that at this point in time and in this situation, He was not subject to her as His mother; He will go by the will of His Father, whatever it is He will tell Him to do.
Mary understood. She said to the servants: "Whatever He says to you, do it."
